Happy Birthday  !

What a day !! Family, friends, friends of friends, friends of my children, children of my friends, each of them is wishing me “Happy Birthday “. I hope I do what I am expected to do. That is “to be happy.”

Today I want to resolve to be happy for the whole year. So the slogan for the year is “Don’t worry, be happy ! ”

I wish the same slogan for each and every one of you. “Don’t worry, be happy !!”

I am sure the path to remain “happy” is not that easy but who wants an easy path anyway? I know “Don’t worry” is easily said than done but who is afraid of failure anyway?

Let us walk on this Journey of Life from “stress” to “happiness”. Together.

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I can’t V/s I won’t

I can’t sing, I can’t dance, I can’t speak in public, I can’t do bigger business, I can’t argue cleverly, I can’t fly helicopter, I can’t take leave for 3 months from my work, I can’t write, I can’t cook, I can’t write codes, I can’t understand calculus,I can’t exercise everyday, I can’t control my craving for chocolate,  I can’t swim, I can’t be successful. The list of our ” I can’t” is endless. It frustrates us. It make us feel victim, It is both hopelessness and helplessness. When we say I can’t that means subject close. “I can’t” closes all possibilities.

The basic reason behind “I can’t ” is fear. We are scared of humiliation, hardworking and which is sign of lack of confidence. Without confidence it is very difficult to execute even simpler tasks.

Losers usually use the term “I can’t” as it allows them to run away from any activity without any responsibility.

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So when I say I can’t dance what really I mean is I am afraid of dancing due to lack of skills or due to  fear of humiliation in front of  others. That means I CAN dance but I don’t want to dance till I learn by attending dance class to acquire skills. I don’t attend class because I don’t have time or money or it is not my priority right now. So if I can spare my time and money or if at all it is in my priority list, definitely I would had done hard work and learnt dancing. So I can dance but I won’t dance as it is not what I want right now.

“I won’t ” shows choice while ” I can’t ” shows helplessness.   It is perfectly alright not to dance if it is not what you want. It is perfectly fine if you don’t want to speak in public. I suggest you use term ” I won’t ” instead of “I can’t”.  “I can’t” closes the possibilities and makes you feel victim.

You can dance, sing, fly helicopter, write codes, learn calculus, exercise everyday, swim and whatever you want to do. It is different thing that you don’t want to.
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